When your mind works against you

How many times you felt your mind is working against you?
How many times you did unintentional mistakes?
When was the last time you felt there is some kind of resistance coming from your mind?

Sam didn't want to pick up the phone as he was expecting call from a friend he had a fight with. Sam was feeling guilty, ashamed, tensed and worried about the outcome of the call.

When his phone started ringing Sam took the decision to answer but instead of pressing the right button he actually ended the call by mistake!

Most people would think that this is some kind of unintentional mistake but if they were allowed to peak inside Sam's unconscious mind they would have discovered that his mind was actually working against his will!

The internal conflict

When was the last time you felt afraid during a speech or a presentation? Didn't you do your best to get over these emotions? Why didn't they go away then?

Its because your conscious and subconscious mind usually work separately and in some cases a conflict of interest happens that results in a war between both of them. (see also The conscious vs the subconscious mind)

Here are few popular life examples:

1) Couldn't take action properly: When was the last time you hesitated while trying to do something? How many times you watched the ball coming then moved one second late only to miss it? Its because your subconscious mind was afraid of making a mistake while your conscious mind wanted you to take the move.
2) Forgot an appointment: When was the last time you forgot about an appointment or a phone call that you should have done? In such a case your subconscious mind might have not wanted you to make that call or see that person and as a result it made you forget about it. (see also Why do we forget certain things)
3) Procrastinated?: When was the last time you didn't feel like working? When was the last time you procrastinated until time was out? Its the fact that the subconscious mind didn't want you to do that task that resulted in procrastination.
4) Typo Errors: How many times you typed exactly what was in your mind while you intended to type the opposite? When was the last time you forgot to add the "No" to the sentence you were writing? I am not saying that all Typo errors result from the conflict taking place inside your mind but many of them happen for that reason (see also Dealing with internal conflict)

What causes a conflict inside your brain

When your subconscious mind doesn't come in agreement with your conscious mind about something it usually starts to resist in its own ways.

What do you think indifference is all about?
Its all about the resistance that happens from your subconscious mind because of believing that the plans you are sticking to won't work. (see also Why you should write a plan)

Poor performance can also be one form of Resistance. In the Solid Self confidence program i said that your subconscious mind can make you fail a test just to prove to you that you are dumb if it believes so. Do you know those moments where you forget everything that you studied?

Its one form of unconscious Resistance.

How to prevent your mind from resisting you

So how can you end this resistance for good?? Here are few things that you need to do:

1)Communicate with your subconscious mind: I said earlier that one of the good ways to communicate with your subconscious mind is to talk to yourself. When you spend more time with yourself you will get to understand what your subconscious mind wants. In other words self understanding is the best cure for these conflicts

2) Listen to emotions: Most people ignore their emotions and try to act as if they don't exist. Emotions are the first method your subconscious mind uses to complain and if you didn't respond to them it will start to complain using the other methods we mentioned. (see also Where do emotions come from)

3) Don't violate your values: Do you believe in Honesty? Then you won't know how to become a perfectly dishonest person because your subconscious mind will go against you. The easiest liar to spot is the one who don't lie often because his subconscious mind goes against him clearly by affecting his body language and tone of voice. In other words, never go against your values. (see also Lying detection)

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