why do i talk to myself so much

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

How your mind works

When was the last time you caught yourself talking to your own self?
Do you think that talking to yourself is a sign of mental illness?
Do you sometimes find yourself debating with your own self as if you are talking to someone else?

Before i tell you whether talking to yourself is good or not let me first explain few things that take place inside your mind. The conscious mind is the part of your mind responsible for whatever you become conscious of, like moving your hands intentionally. The subconscious mind is responsible for unconscious processes such as controlling emotions and the storage of beliefs.

The belief database that is present in your subconscious mind affects your behaviour, perception of the world and self esteem. Now if you want to change anything about your world it might be a great idea to change some of your beliefs.

Your beliefs get formed as a result of the interaction that happens between your conscious and your subconscious mind. If the conscious mind approved an idea and didn't find anything wrong with it then most probably it will become a belief that gets stored in the subconscious mind if it was repeated many times.

What talking to yourself can help you achieve

Now when you talk to yourself you actually affect the beliefs stored in the subconscious mind. Talking to yourself is the process where you get the conscious mind to analyze events and data in order to determine whether a belief should go into the conscious mind or not.

Lets suppose you got rejected by a person you liked. In such a case you might quickly assume that you are defective or you might start talking to yourself to convince your subconscious mind that you are not really bad and that there are other reasons behind this rejection.

In other words its this self talk that might prevent your subconscious mind from forming false beliefs about yourself and the world. In the Solid Self confidence program i said that one of the possible ways to change a belief is to convince your subconscious mind that it was wrong through proper self talk.

Talk to yourself to fix beliefs

Consider your subconscious mind a friend that won't believe you before you provide good evidence, now the process of providing this evidence can take either of two forms:

The first is taking a strong action to prove to your subconscious mind that it was wrong. For example studying hard and getting good grades to prove to your mind that you are smart. (see How to change negative beliefs)

The second is talking with your subconscious mind is order to show it that it has some incorrect data about yourself and the world.

So the final conclusion is, talk to yourself as this is a healthy habit that will help you become more psychologically stable.

I am afraid to become mad

Some people get extremely confused when they talk to themselves. After a self talk session they end up with more riddles than the ones they began with and the reason this happens is the lack of knowledge.

If you lacked knowledge about an important issue then started discussing it with yourself then you are most likley to end up feeling confused.

This is why your self talk will never become effective enough unless you read a lot about the topics that concern you. The more you read about these topics the more you will have good arguments to use and the more you will be able to convince your subconscious mind to believe you.

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