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There is no denying how the sense of adventure resulting from a secret relationship makes it more euphoric than any other relationship when it starts. The emotions are intense especially with the psychological factor of unity; both couples feel that it is them against the world.
In one study it was found that people get more attached to each other when they do more exciting things together. Because a secret relationship is always full of suspense people involved it in become closer and have more intense emotions.
These factors together make the experience out of this world.
In order to decide if something is good or bad, we’ve got to look at all the factors that make it either good or bad. The more awareness we have of something, the better we deal with it, so whether you’re already in a secret relationship or about to get into one let’s have a look at what psychologically happens – good and bad.
If you are not in a secret relationship but kind of like someone a bit, it is good that you know that almost all secret relationships start out innocently. It is a very natural tendency to like other people even if we are already in a relationship or even if we know it’s not right with a certain person for a certain situation.
This is human nature, and even people who are in love with each other might find other people attractive. Then does this mean we naturally cheat? We can’t control falling in love with someone we shouldn’t be with?
Here is a very important question. Even though we have a natural tendency to like other people, we have complete control of our minds to choose whether to continue with these kinds of thoughts or not. (see also How to not get attached to someone
Here, this very idea is the root cause to whether you will end up in a secret relationship or not. Right there when it’s still innocent, you can keep it innocent, if you choose not to think about it most the time. (see also Is it possible to like two people at once?)
In My book How to make someone fall in love with you People are first attracted to each other based on a set of subconscious criteria that they have about the person they want.
When we meet a person that meets a lot of these subconscious criteria we are greatly attracted to them. The more we realize that they have more of our criteria, the more we will like them and fall in love with them. (see also Why do we fall in love)
The brain sends emotions of love to make sure that we stick around the person it believes will make us happy. Let’s have a look at how secret relationships intensify these feelings and why.
When something is secret, it becomes very adventurous especially in the beginning, and this kind of adventure brings with it more feelings of excitement.
The excitement and the fun convinces the brain even more that you are going through a wonderful experience, and links this happiness to the person you like and therefore sends even more emotions of love to make sure you stick around with them. (see also How love happens)
Here is the thing, people experience wonderful emotions of high in the beginning of any relationship, but according to studies positive emotions decrease by time. You don’t fall out of love, but in order to keep love you need to keep working on it to make it a wonderful experience and keep emotions high.
In secret relationships the same factors that at some point made it very exciting could be the same factors that make it extremely stressful and painful.
When challenges start to happen in the relationship, the once beautiful feeling of unity will be the same reason for feelings of complete loneliness. There is no one to turn to since most will be judgmental about it, and so they tend to experience these negative emotions quietly and feel very much alone.
During stressful times the brain tends to remember all the other things that are causing the person depression. This means the guilt they are carrying for this sort of relationship about the kind of harms it could be causing to others and themselves will resurface.
Here things will take an extreme twist of negativity just like it did with the extreme positivity in the beginning. All these events will continue to convince your brain that this person is not so very good for you after all, and the brain sends less emotions of love.
Human beings by nature always look for instant gratification rather than delayed gratification. Even though secret relationships may seem more beautiful to experience in the beginning, well- maintained relationships however give much more beautiful feelings in the long run that can be sustained.
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