I don't see what you see

Why can a certain word annoy a certain person without affecting others?
Why can you find a attractive while another person finds him unattractive?
Why do some people fear the opposite sex and why do others feel confident around them?

I am sure that you agree with me that each and every person sees the world differently and from a different angle. While most people are aware of this fact they still find themsleves confused because they don't know exactly why do others see the world in a different way!

I decided to write this article to help you end this confusion and to understand others in a better way.

Why do people see the world differently

Here is why people see the world differently:

1) They focus on their own flaws: Most people who have self confidence issues are not aware of the fact that most people focus on their own flaws more than they focus on anything else. A man who believes that he is short will most likely notice short and tall guys more than he will notice obese or skinny ones. While a tall obese person might be worrying about the way the short slim guy will perceive his weight the latter will be busy focusing on the hieght of the first and not his weight! This fact alone should be enough to make you feel confident around others
2) They see a reflection of their own fears The girl who fears cats might believe that any moving object is a cat for a moment or two before she realizes that its something else. This perception problem also happens when people deal with each other. Those who were cheated on before usually focus on certain things when they deal with others, those who were abused focus on different things and so on. People always see a reflection of their fears in their daily lives and that's why they see the world differently (see also How to become fearless in life)
3) They have different beliefs: The belief system a person has governs the way he sees reality. If ,for example, you believe that all people are mean then you will interpret their actions in a way that proves this fact true. If you believe that rich people are arrogant then you will always see them that way not because all of them are arrogant but because your perception of reality will be biased towards your beliefs. Beliefs come from past experiences and that's why the environment the person grows in determines the way he sees the world to a great extent (see also How your past affects your present)
4) They have different identities: I love to listen to motivating music played in war movies. A friend of mine finds them completely uninteresting! After simple analysis i realized that i liked this type of music because it resonates with my inner world. In other words, i believe i am a warrior and that's why i love war songs. People see the world based on their identities and as a result one person can find a certain thing interesting while the other person can find it boring (see also the psychology of music, Why do we find certain things interesting and The psychological identity)
5) They always see a reflection of their own thoughts: Have you ever seen the one that you love somewhere only to find him a different person when you get closer? Whatever we think about affects our perception of reality. This perception error might happen also when you read a road sign or a certain word in a book. Whatever you are thinking about might affect your perception of reality to a certain extent

Self confidence and perception of reality

In the Solid Self confidence program i said that once you realize that people see different things than the things you see you will become more confident.

I have met some people who are not confident because they dislike the shape of their nose, their mouth or even their ears. What those people didn't know is that others mostly focus on the things that concern them the most not the things that concern others!

See the world correctly and you will become more confident.

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