The Ultimate guide to Getting over depression, mood swings & bad moods Based on psychology
Self talk is the act of using words and phrases while thinking. suppose that you had a fight with one of your friends and upon being alone these phrases came to your mind "why did he do so ,maybe he hates me!!".
This was a simple example of self talk that we all use. self talk is a normal process however the problem arises when the self talk becomes negative and when it is used to reinforce some irrational ideas that you have.
For example suppose that you were rejected if phrases such as "probably i was rejected today because i am a loser" came to your mind then you are using your self talk to build irrational beliefs about yourself.
Here are More examples of negative self talk:
In the Solid Self confidence program i said that negative self talk arises from the irrational ideas you have about yourself.
If you think that you are clumsy, a loser , looking ugly or totally worthless then your self talk will be negative. the real problem is that this negative self talk reinforces the irrational ideas you already have. Each time you repeat one of those negative phrases you are actually making your irrational idea stronger .
In order to deal with negative self talk you must question it. You must not let a new phrase reinforce a belief without having a solid proof. suppose for example that one of your friends ignored you one day and then you thought that this happened because you are uninteresting.
what are the clues that you have to prove that you are uninteresting? there are hundreds of possibilities that may have made your friend ignore you today. Maybe your friend was having a bad day and so was not in the mood to talk to you.
Maybe your friend didn't notice you today or maybe he was thinking about something and that's why he didn't see you. Why did you leave all these possibilities and just thought that you are a loser? Its because of the false belief that you have about yourself.
what you must do in order to prevent your self talk from affecting your beliefs is to challenge your irrational ideas and thoughts. You must not accept any belief except if there was a solid proof. In the previous example hundreds of possibilities were there but you only picked one of them without having a strong proof.
By questioning every negative self talk phrase you use during your self talk you will break the cycle of reinforcement of your irrational beliefs.
You might take some time before this way of thinking becomes a new habit but in the end it will change.
You can also change your negative self talk to positive self talk. You just need use a method called CBT(cognitive behavior therapy). This method will help you control your thoughts and your negative self talk. This will in turn lead to weakening the irrational beliefs that you have about yourself until they are removed.
building self confidence is another action that can help you eliminate the root cause for your irrational beliefs. Build your self confidence now and you will be free from those irrational ideas.
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