psychology of falling in love

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Do you have problems getting over someone?

Is there someone that you can’t forget about?
Do you find that even though you are into another relation still you can’t forget about the old one?
Do you think that he was the one?

Before understanding the psychology of love i used to suffer for months before i could forget about a breakup. Right after i learned about the psychology of love i started to recover in few days from any breakup. This is not a skill that only i could learn but the same will happen to you right after reading the articles in this section.

psychology of falling in love

Before you know why you can’t forget about someone you should know first know why you still remember him.

According to the psychology of falling In love the process falling in love is controlled by chemicals that are released by your brain.

Love is not a random process at all but it has rules that govern it. You will usually fall in love with someone who matches a criteria that is hard coded into your subconscious mind.

This criteria is formed as a result of your past experiences, beliefs and values. In addition the things that you like about yourself affect the criteria because you will always look for someone who posses them. The same goes for the things which you don’t like about yourself because you will always look for someone who don't have them. (Do likes attract)

People fall in love with those who have similar traits to the ones they like about themselves and different traits to the ones they don't like about themselves.

The psychology of love and forgetting someone

If long time passed and you still didn't manage to forget about a person then most probably one of these things happened:

  • Poor match: According to the psychology of falling in love if you loved a person who matched your criteria then for some reason the relation was terminated and someone else appeared in your life who doesn't match your criteria then you will always compare them to each other and the first one will always win the comparison.
  • External dependency: Another major cause for not being able to get over someone is getting into a relationship just to forget about the first one even if the new one doesn't match your criteria. The role of the second person in such a case will be the pain killer and that's why the first one will always win the comparison and you will believe even more that he was the one
  • Similarity and the psychology of love According to the psychology of love you can fall in love with someone just because he looks like someone you used to love before. Maybe he looks like him or maybe he talks or walks the the same way, whatever the reason is, your subconscious mind will just fall for that person. Now again the first one will win the comparison because the second was just a replacement that reminds you of the first
  • Abnormal termination: Abnormal relationship termination is another strong reason that can prevent you from getting over someone. Abnormal relationship termination happens when your partner suddenly disappears, either by cutting down the connection between you and him or by traveling somewhere else and then refusing to talk to you or to resume negotiation. In such a case you may find yourself still attached to him just because you can’t get a hold of him. If that's your case then read this article 10 ways to get over any breakup

How can the psychology of love help

According to the psychology of love the mind can never accept the fact that a breakup has happened unless hope is completely lost in getting the person back. That's why you must call your relationship partner and make sure that the relationship reached a dead end. Only then recovery can start to happen.

One other important point about the psychology of love you must understand is that we fall in love with any person who matches our subconscious criteria. This means that there are many potential partners waiting for you out there and not just one. People who understand this fact well never have hard time recovering from breakups.

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