Do you know how many seconds it takes a person to form an impression of you?
It usually takes the a person from 5 to 10 seconds to form an impression of you. I'm sure you are now wondering how you can leave a positive impression in this very short period of time!!
Actually, more than one thing that can be controlled takes place in this short period of time and as you may have already guessed one of these things is the handshake.
Why do you think you experience fear while watching a horror movie despite the fact that you're perfectly safe at home? That's simply because your subconscious mind follows some primitive rules in its operation and so it may incorrectly interpret an external stimulus as a threat even if there was no real danger.
Now let's go back to the handshake, When you firmly hold the other person’s hand during the handshake his subconscious mind will think that you are stronger and more confident than him!!
So by making sure that your handshake is firm, without exerting extra unneeded pressure, you will be leaving the impression that you are a confident person.
Have you ever noticed how some people position their palms horizontally instead of vertically while shaking hands with their friends?
We have two cases here:
1) The first is when the palm is parallel and facing the floor
2) The second is when the palm is facing the sky.
The first gesture reflects the desire to dominate while the other one represents a state of submission. The person who positions his palm so that it faces the ground while shaking hands will usually be doing so because of his unconscious desire to dominate the other person. On the other hand positioning the palm so that it faces the sky usually reflects the state of being submissive to the other person.
So what if someone tries to shake hands with you with his palms facing the ground?
Simply hold his palm and firmly return it to the vertical position. By doing so, you will be sending an indirect message to his subconscious mind telling him: “Sorry, but I'm not the kind of person whom you can control”
In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you i described how simple gestures such as a firm handshake can make you appear much more attractive and can increase the chance of making people fall in love with you. Make sure to learn about the other body language gestures so that you can leave the best possible impression.
Learning more about body language can give a very strong boost to your communication skills. 2knowmyself is the only website on the web comprising the full body language postures, along with their detailed explanation; make sure you visit the body language section.
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