Even if you are a good person who hates conflicts or even if you think that you don't have enemies still there will be people out there who will hate you and who will want to see you suffering.
In my article Why do people hate each other i pointed out how insecurity, jealousy, conflict of interests and many other reasons could force some people to hate you even if you did nothing wrong to them at all.
The important question you should ask yourself is, do i know my enemies?
For the first instance you might believe that you know them well but in fact most people who hate you will try to cause as much harm to you as possible (if this doesn't contradict with their values) without revealing their identity.
You are very less likely to be physically attacked by an enemy of yours these days but instead he might try to back stab you while acting as if he loves you.
Because deception is a part of human nature especially when no strong opposing morals are found i decided to write this article to help you know your enemies and deal with them.
So how can you deal with your enemies?
Before you can deal with your enemies you need to first know them.
Most of your enemies will be feeling resentful towards you and the good news is that resentment is one of the emotions that usually forces the resentful person to vent whenever he has the chance. (see also Dealing with resentful people)
You can easily recognize an enemy by his non constructive critical comments, by watching for his positive body language when he hears about your problems and by the words he says about you in your absence.
Lets suppose that someone wanted to criticize you for something, does it make any sense that he writes the negative comment on your facebook wall or as a comment on a post in your blog?
Certainly a person who does so has other intentions other than giving you feedback. I was once talking to a person about the big troubles i was facing during a certain phase of my life and i noticed that his body language showed that he was happy to hear about these events!
Of course it would be a great mistake to start suspecting everyone around you or to assume that someone is your enemy without having solid evidence and that's why one of the best things you can do to recognize an enemy is to stir up his emotions in order to force him to reveal his true intentions.
Yesterday i wrote a provoking comment on my Facebook status, an action that i do every now and then in order to catch the wrong people on my list. The comment wasn't provoking enough to disturb normal people but for real enemies it was so distressing that one of them wrote bad words on my wall only to delete it few seconds later.
Find out a way to tempt someone to show his real intentions and if he was an enemy then certainly he will make a mistake.
Here is how you can deal with your enemies:
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