The Ultimate guide to Getting over depression, mood swings & bad moods Based on psychology
Plato, the famous greek philosopher, had an theory about how people fool themselves. He tried explaining his theory to others by telling them a story.
Some people were living inside a cave that had an opening to allow sunlight to enter.
These people were tied with chains to the ground so that none of them could ever leave the cave.
As the sun moved throughout the day, so did the shadows of the things outside the cave. The people thought that the shadows were in fact living things and that the sounds they heard through that same opening were the voices of the shadows!!
As you can see, the people inside the cave were living in their own imaginary world, perceiving things very differently from their true nature and so they continued living with false beliefs believing that they are unquestionable truths.
The question you should ask yourself is, are you also living in a cave too? A lot of people live their lives thinking that they are boring or ugly and then misunderstand every message they get from others in order to further proof these false ideas!! If you can't imagine how this can occur then take a look at these examples:
Self deception is the fastest way to lose someone. If you incorrectly interpreted a small action made by someone and believed that his action meant that he doesn't like you then you might ruin your relationship with him without noticing.
You will most likely start to avoid him and you may even wait for the slightest mistake he makes to pick a fight!
If this person notices the aloof or hostile attitude you have towards him he may start to treat you the same way and so provide you with even more proofs to support your false belief. You will end up being convinced one hundred percent that he hates you!
Now you have just lost the friendship of a person who didn’t have any bad intentions towards you! Self deception can also lead to destroying your relationship with your partner, work mates, boss and anyone else you care for.
Lack of understanding of your partner's needs and wants can lead to relationship dissatisfaction.
In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining a healthy relationship i explained how lack of self understanding and lack of understanding of your partner's emotions can be the main reason behind breaking up.
Its very important that you don't fight with your partner nor complain before you make sure that you got him correctly else you will be risking your relationship.
There are two steps in dealing with self deception. The first is to challenge your thoughts. If someone didn’t call you that day then don’t jump to the conclusion that he hates you but instead try to find him an excuse. Unless you have some really strong evidence then you're probably wrong!!
Step two would be building self-confidence. Since the main reason for incorrect perception is that you are not feeling confident enough about yourself building self confidence can help you solve this problem.
If you were self-confident you would have thought of any other explanation for your friend's behaviour other than believing that he hates you.
Don’t live in Plato’s cave, break your chain and explore the world outside!
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Did that help?
Not until you tell me how to become self-confident.
Yes, but tell me how to challenge my thoughts.
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