I want to find love

I was talking to one of my friends who was telling me how badly she wanted to find love.
I didn't feel that her words were strange because lots of people want to find love however when she continued saying "I want to find love in order to be truly happy" i was shocked, my jaw dropped and felt like i have to give a lecture about the relationship between true happiness and love!!

Trying to find love is something good but if you are trying to find love in order to feel happy then there is something going wrong with your life, because after all if you are mentally healthy then you should be feeling great without being in a relationship and even greater when you are in one.

The myth of finding love and happiness together

Most people don't understand how happiness work and thanks to the movies they only believe in the magical pill solution where they can find happiness instantly right after doing a certain action such as getting in a relationship.

Usually people who search for love in order to be happy are the ones with messed up lives and who want to escape from this mess by finding a pain killer such as a good relationship.

Because of the hormones that get released as soon as a person gets into a new relationship the person manages to forget for a little while about his already existing pain.

So the relationship in such a case serves the role of a pain killer to an already messed up life, but the question is, if that person's life wasn't messed up, would he have thought that way?

Of course not, if the person's life was normal he would have been feeling good on his own and better with a loving partner not horrible on his own and fine when in a relationship.

The problem of trying to find love

Now let me tell you the great problems that happen when a person seeks love just to feel happy:

Wrong choices: Because the person who is trying to find love for that reason looks for a quick fix he usually makes wrong choices or even worse decides to get into a relationship when the first available option shows up
He suffers the most after a breakup: In my book How to get over anyone in few days i explained how the ones who seek relationships to fix their moods are the ones who suffer the most after breakups. Right after losing their pain killer they start to experience the horrible emotions they were experiencing before and so they feel really bad
Reality shock: After the chemicals that were released at the beginning of the relationship start fading the person finds himself feeling sad once again but at this point he discovers that he doesn't have a clue about the next step, he thought that finding love was his only way to happiness and now that he doesn't know any other way he feels helpless and depressed.
Problem remain there and resurface after a while: Since the person's problems were never solved by escaping to a relationship, the problems remain there and then come to the surface as soon as the slightest problem happen to the relationship

In short, you can be truly happy while you are single and if you believe that you must find love in order to feel good then there is something wrong with your life that needs to be fixed.

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