Tim was sitting in front of his laptop browsing the web. While he was online a close friend of his that he hadn’t talked to in a long time appeared online. Suddenly Tim’s back became straight.
Few minutes later his friend left and Tim started to feel a little bored, Without noticing his back became curved and he slid a little into the chair. After some time his phone rang and upon answering he realized that he had to deliver something to his aunt who lives at the other side of the town; his back bent more and he dived deeper into his chair.
While Tim was thinking about that unexpected errand he had to go for the phone rang again; it was his aunt telling him that she won’t be home and thus he doesn’t have to deliver the things that day. Tim's back got straighter than ever and he felt happy.
What made Tim's back change from curved to straight that often? Just monitor your back's position for few hours and you will discover that your back is doing the same exactly as Tim’s back.
Your back will be straighter when :
You're happy
You're interested in something
Your back will slouch and you will slide into your chair when :
You feel down or when your mood swings
You're bored or when you lose interest in something
Body language can't just help you read people but it can also help you attract them.
A straight back can make you more attractive!! In my book, How to make someone fall in love with you i described how keeping your back straight can make you appear more confident and in turn more attractive.
One study has found that thugs tend to chose their victims based on their degree of submissiveness. If a person appeared submissive, had a curved back and an innocent look on his face then he is more likley to be mugged.
Straighten your back, stretch your shoulders, look the people you encounter in the eye especially if they looked suspicious and you will reduce your chance of getting robbed.
Another study has found that people who are more conscientious of their surroundings( for example they look around them while walking) tend to be at a lower risk of getting mugged.
What’s great about body language is that it can be used to change emotions. just as your emotions affect your postures, your postures too affect your emotions. Try to force yourself to keep your back straight for a while and see what happens.
You will discover that not only your mood will change but even your way of thinking will change too. When you were acting like a defeated person by bending your back you were thinking like one too but when you started acting like a happy person you started thinking like one .
In short, Watch Your Back :)
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