For years and years self development gurus and bloggers including me kept glorifying and praising successful people. Bill gates, Steve jobs, Richard Branson and many other extremely successful people were described as legends (and yes i did the same too).
After all those people are brilliant, risk takers, extremely persistent, visionaries and so many other good things. But one day a strange question came to my mind.
How many people in the world are smart, passionate, brave & persistent?
The logical answer is millions!
So why aren't all of those millions billionaires or millionaires?
Or at least why aren't all the ones who desperately want to be rich really rich?
The shocking answer is, you can be persistent, smart, passionate, brave but still fail. But how come can this be?
I have read hundreds of success stories over the past years and i noticed one thing in common among them all. Let me write 3 of them in brief and see if you can reach the same conclusion.
Did you make any conclusions yet?
Ok let me help you.
What would have happened if Eduardo never met Mark Zuckerberg? (lived in a different state for example)
What if Zuckerberg Never met the Winklevoss twins?
And if any of the above happened where would have Mark Pincus been today?
And if social networks didn't rise how would have Gopro gained popularity?
Yes we can control our habits, emotions, desires, goals and even change our personality traits but so many of the needed factors for success are simply beyond our control.
I am not trying to dilute the achievements of any of those people. In fact all of those people are extremely brilliant and persistent. But are all brilliant and persistent people successful?
Simply no. Because some factors that are totally out of our control might change the course of our lives. Meeting someone or not meeting him, being passionate about something or not having passion, being raised in a certain environment or being raised somewhere else are all examples of factors that can directly affect the level of success we achieve in our lives.
In fact the success of other people or their failure can also affect our level of success. Had Mark zuckerberg didn't succeed with Facebook then Twitter or even Instagram might have not been here. Zynga wouldn't have certainly been here without Facebook.
The illusion of being in full control can ruin our lives. Here is how:
If you compared yourself to others who achieved more than you without putting in mind that some factors beyond their control helped them then you might lose confidence. When you glorify the people who made great achievements in life your beliefs about yourself will change.
You will start to think that they succeeded because they are good while you didn't because you are bad. Such comparisons can kill self confidence and result in a miserable life.
Of course no! you would be getting the article totally wrong if you decided to give up. I managed to become a self made millionaire and i have made more than 4 attempts to become a billionaire. In fact i am currently working on the fifth attempt now. So certainly i am not asking you to give up.
So why i wrote this article?
This article isn't an invitation to give up but it has two main purposes:
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